“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there.” ~ Lewis Carroll
If you don’t know what it is that you want, then how can you expect to ever get it?
Think about it; how many times have you felt that your life is not living up to your expectations; like there is something missing; something that you should be doing or that you should have and you can’t quite seem to put your finger on what, exactly, it is? How many times have you gotten the distinct impression that you are ‘settling’ for a life that contains less that you are capable of containing?
Like everyone else, I’d had this feeling myself; this vague, unfocused impression of a larger life; a template of my life if you will that existed just under the surface of reality; the life that I was always meant to live and that I could be living if only I knew how to bring it into my reality.
I’d daydreamed about the kind of life I wanted to have; the people and things that I wanted to be in it; but it always seemed like no more than a dream; wishful thinking all vague and unfocused; unfocused that is until the day that suddenly it all made sense. In a blink I understood what it was that I’d been missing.
I still remember the moment vividly; I was sitting at a coffee shop, across the table from a woman that I had just met. A complete stranger until fifteen minutes earlier, she’d been pouring her problems out to me for the last quarter of an hour and I’d been listening; curious as to usual about what it is that seems to inspire people to just start laying their problems out for me, when something she said snapped my consciousness into focus;
“I keep waiting for something to interesting to happen to me but nothing ever does,” she said, sounding rather forlorn. “I keep getting the impression that I’ve, you know, just settled for something less than I should have. That there really should be more to my life – I just don’t know what, and if only I could figure out what it is, then everything would fall into place.” She sighed and took a sip of her coffee and went on to talk about other things, none of which I remember because my mind was busy being astounded.
Heaven only knows that it wasn’t the first time I’d heard someone say this. In fact, I’d thought this myself on more than one occasion, but for some reason when that woman said it that morning in that coffee shop with the sun falling across our table at that exact angle, everything snapped into place with a crystalline clarity that took my breath away.
Having a vague idea of what I wanted was not enough you see. Simply knowing that there was something bigger that I was supposed to be doing with my life wasn’t enough to bring that purpose to the surface. Simply wanting my life to be better was not enough to make it so.
It was like I’d been spending my life creating an impressionist painting; a series of lines and dots and splotches of color; people and places and situations and experiences all randomly splashed onto my canvass; adhering only to the vaguest of outlines and without any but the vaguest impression of what it was that I was painting.
I’d been missing focus.
In those few minutes; the handful of minutes between the words spoken by this virtual stranger and the time she and her extra large mocha latte walked out of the shop to go on about her life, everything I’d ever read about visualization; about manifestation; about creating your own reality all of it finally made sense. In order to live the life you were always meant to live there is one thing that you have to do; bring that life into the forefront of your awareness and bring all of your focus to bear on it.
Of course this is easier said than done; you have to be able to determine what, exactly, constitutes the kind of life that you want to be living and then be able to hold it in the forefront of your awareness, but once you have gotten to the point where you can keep your focus on what it is that you want to manifest in your life, you’ll be amazed at how quickly things will start falling into place for you and just how quickly the life you were meant to live becomes a reality. There is just one important thing to remember – don’t focus on what it is that is missing and treat it as if it is missing. Focus on it as if you already have it in your life; give thanks for it. Tell yourself how glad you are that you have this particular thing in your life, then watch as it becomes a living breathing part of your reality.
Curious as to some ways to bring your own dreams into focus in your reality? Try some of the following ideas, you just might be surprised at how well they work:
- Learning how to be mindful is a key ingredient in holding your focus, learn about Mindfulness Meditation HERE.
- Learning how to use Creative Visualization go can a long ways towards helping you to achieve your dreams.
- Learning to enhance your creative visualization skills with meditation can help you to bring your dreams to live. learn more about Enhancing Creative Visualization with Meditation.
- Being able to see exactly what it is that you want is a technique that is discussed in the topic of Using Vision Boards